“Manspreading,” “Mansplaining,” and “Bodily Autonomy,” three words that, like sipping vermouth, serve only to grow one’s social status amongst peers. They come loaded with assumptions—namely that men ruin the nuance of a woman’s life. They are three words, though, in a movement that serve only to undermine women’s lives. Modern feminism seeks to rectify the wrongdoings men inherently perpetrate but in practice supports a male lifestyle that disincentivizes compassion towards women, particularly through the act of sex.
As a preface, this piece should not be seen as a judgment on those who have active bedrooms. Instead I am ridiculing those who grandstand for female empowerment only to empower that which can emotionally bruise them. Before anything, though, we need to take stock of what men and women value in sex—not what ideologues on either side say they should value but what surveys and studies show they actually do.
In an early 2000s French study, only 23% of respondents (male and female) indicated “feelings of closeness” as the main accomplishment of sex. In that same study, 55% of women responded that they wished to change something about their sex life. More recently, the New York Times just noted that 73% of religious, conservative wives—those with traditional views of sex and sexuality—report having high-quality marriages. That number was only 55% for wives who experienced a secular, liberal lifestyle up until, and including, marriage. Regardless of ideologies, women benefit from committed, traditional sexual relationships.
These effects are particularly detrimental to young women on college campuses. As Psychology Today attests, sexual liberation on college campuses effectively reduces the bargaining power of women in a romantic setting to zero. The dominance of “hook-up” culture has forced women to “behave like men” and lose the emotional commitment that sex had previously required.
At the root of the issue, Ross Douthat correctly diagnoses “hook-up” culture as an economic market. The New York Times contributor suggests that men are incentivized to pursue a Hefnerian view of women, and the winners and losers of this capitalistic system are, respectively, men and the female bodies they collect.
Aggravating this problem is abortion. In the middle of May, Alabama functionally outlawed abortion, destroying a solution to unwanted pregnancies. The modern left’s obsession with the proliferation of abortion supports a promiscuous lifestyle for men. Men can sleep around freely with the solution to their consequences readily available thus shorting women who value emotional commitment.
Couple these statistics with a decreased amount of sex generally amongst young people, and the data suggests that people are rejecting their new sexual liberation. While on an individual level, it may be a net positive (dependent on your definition of “positive”), the widespread availability of sex has, at best, had a minimally positive effect on female emotional contentment as a whole.
Men are not dumb creatures, but sometimes the Freudian “Id” takes over. Women can be victimized by this urge. The movements that claim to support women, however, increasingly incentivize men to act upon those desires at the expense of women. This is not to say the pro-abortion and feminist left is preaching, “Go, therefore, and use women for sex with no emotional or reproductive strings attached.” It is not their intent to victimize women but reality shows that it is the unfortunate result of their actions.
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