Something important that always seems to be missing from the heated debate around abortion is the effect that it has on fathers. We’re often told that, while women become mothers as soon as they get pregnant, men don’t become fathers until the baby is born. However, abortion still harms fathers in several ways
Fathers Don’t Know
In many states, such as Michigan, fathers have no legal say in a woman’s abortion. Therefore, it’s possible for a man to never even know that a woman is pregnant. Many women don’t tell men they’re pregnant for a variety of reasons, including fear of rejection, abusive relationships, age, etc., but whether the father wants to be involved, he deserves to know and have a say in the decision as well. An exception to this should be if the father knowing could bring tangible harm to the expectant mother.
In situations where familial rejection is especially likely for the mother, the father might be her only form of support, giving him the chance to step up and protect his child before it’s even born.
Releases Men from Responsibility
One of the best things about becoming a parent is that it helps people grow up. The majority of parents will step up to the plate and become adults when they have someone else to take care of. To allow men the chance to have sex and simply get rid of the obvious consequences allows them to never take any responsibility for their actions.
Once a baby is aborted, the man is able to shirk his duty to provide anything he owes to the child and/or his/her mother.
If a man is responsible enough to have sex, he is responsible enough to live with any consequences that come from his decisions. When a society breeds and excuses irresponsibility, that society is weakened.
The film Bachelorette (2012)— a romantic comedy— is meant to showcase how the lives of four high school best friends have progressed. However, the most jolting storyline is that of Gena and Clyde, high school sweethearts who experienced a gut-wrenching, friendship-breaking end to their relationship following Gena’s abortion at the age of 15.
The two end up together at the end of the film, but the years of pain they both experienced as a result of this experience clearly took a toll on both of them. This may be a fictional couple, but it is a very real situation.
Modern day feminism has taught men that it’s not their place to step in when their child might be aborted, that it’s a woman’s decision and they need to stay out of it. “No uterus, no opinion” is a famed line of Rachel Greene’s from the show Friends. But, if they have a say in conceiving the child— who is ½ them— they absolutely deserve the right to fight for that child’s survival.
Some fathers are deadbeats, but most would be more than willing to raise the child with or without the mother’s support. Baby Daddy, a TV show, is a remarkable pro-life example of the joy that fatherhood brings a man even when he doesn’t expect it or feel prepared.
The Fathers Who Will Never Be
Finally, let’s not forget the male babies who are aborted and who never have the chance to become fathers themselves. Of the many things abortion cost us in terms of advancement and societal well-being, these poor babies never have the chance to grow up, fall in love, and have children of their own.
The views expressed in this article are the opinion of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Lone Conservative staff.