Susan B Anthony’s idea of feminism was perfect. Women winning the right to vote and all the same rights as men in general was absolutely necessary and gave the beginnings of the feminist movement a great name. However, in recent years the movement has shifted, and its new identity pushes women to fight for things they already have and become things they don’t always want or need to be.
When I was graduating high school my friends asked me what I wanted to become and where I saw myself in 10 years. As the girl who was voted “Most Likely to Succeed” by my peers, the answer I gave everyone blindsided them and usually ended up with the response, “But…why? You have so much potential.” And in some ways they are right. I could pursue a career. I could be a nurse or an engineer—but I don’t want to be.
God calls people to different and unique things and when I truly dig deep and think about what would make me the happiest, it’s being a stay-at-home mom and taking care of my husband. For me, there is nothing more empowering than the idea of being depended on in a way that only a mom can be. I want to feel the satisfaction of my family sitting down to enjoy a meal I prepared, or my husband not having to worry about if the bills were paid.
In no way does suggesting women not overlook the importance of being a housewife mean that women should solely depend on a man for their financial needs. Women should always have a backup plan—never leaving themselves without an escape plan if things go wrong… but that doesn’t mean shunning the idea of someone wanting to spend their life as a housewife. Why are feminists having such a hard time supporting women who choose this lifestyle?
The answer lies in the history of our country. Back in the 1950s and 1960s, women were expected to be stuck in the home. They weren’t given the same opportunities as men, and they were without a doubt oppressed. They did not have the option to go out and fight for whichever career they wanted, they were forced to be a housewife.
But things are different now. Women can be who and what they want. We are legally and socially equal to men. Susan B Anthony’s vision for women in the United States has been accomplished and exceeded.
Now that women can be what they want, there’s this lie that suggests we have to be something other than a mother and wife. Third wave feminism has told us that we need more to our identity than those titles—but if feminism is rooted in the ability to choose, why do we need more?
Making the choice to be a housewife yourself is extremely empowering. Housewives and stay-at-home moms are the glue that helps keep a family together. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of the small tasks that are required for a house to remain intact is an incredibly beautiful job to have. Everyone in the house depends on you. Having more time for your children helps raise them to be better citizens, and the ability to focus on them more than you would with a job should not be overlooked.
This is exactly why I’m happy to ignore the confused looks and snide remarks I get when I tell people what I really want to be in life. I feel empowered thinking about how incredible it will be to raise a family and take care of my house. That’s what feminism was and should be about. I am choosing this for myself and it makes me happy. Society is not forcing me into this decision, so feminists everywhere should celebrate.
Women have been able to take something that used to show their oppression and turn it into something they choose all on their own. That’s beautiful. Don’t bring those that want to be housewives down—empower them.
The views expressed in this article are the opinion of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Lone Conservative staff.